Well, that didn’t go so well, did it? I really wanted to keep up with my blog. Really, I did. But then things happened . . . school started up again, Ph.D. work went into full swing, anxiety reared its ugly face, and, well, I didn’t keep up with my blog.
And that is okay. I am going to try again, though, since I am stubborn and refuse to give up. My to-do list is still as long as it was on that very first blog, and I only made it to #2 of my ten commandments for living a happy life: (1) Be Lisa! and (2) It’s Okay to Say No! The Ph.D. is finished (I am Dr. Bompiani-Smith now), and my wine charms business is still in the works, but the greatest addition to my life has been the introduction of essential oils and sharing them with DoTerra. Yet, that is another blog post . . . back to the third commandment.
My third commandment is, “Face it and move on.” Why? Because in the back of my mind, I have been stressing over the fact that I have not kept up with my blog posts, that I haven’t found that new job, that I haven’t done anything with the acoustic trio or voiceover work that I wanted to do two years ago, that I haven’t given time to theater in almost a year. Why stressing? Because they are on my to-do list, and I like to accomplish things on that list. However, I know that there are things on the list that take priority over others, that everything gets crossed off (eventually) and to each his own in time, so-to-speak, when it comes to the list. Sometimes I wonder why I make the to-do list in the first place. I mean, it stresses me out!!! Why add to the stress by making a list that reminds me of all of the things that I need to do, the reasons that I am stressed out, right? LOL.
Enter the Third Commandment. Face it, move on. Nothing can be done, it has happened and passed. All I CAN do is sit down, log in, and write that blog that I have been thinking about for so long. Plus, writing a blog is something that will NEVER be crossed off the to-do list since that is the point of a blog — to be an ongoing conversation in the cyber world. Why even put it on the list? So, instead of continuing to be anxious over the amount of time that has gone by since my last post, I simply faced it, came to grips with the fact that nothing can be done about the time passed, and moved on. Hence, this post.
But how does this commandment play out in other areas of my life? Oh, the ways. Here are some other things that I must just face and then move on from:
- I am a slow shopper. R-E-A-L-L-Y . . . S-L-O-W. It takes me forever to run errands, and I always underestimate in gross fashion the amount of time that it will take me to accomplish the tasks on my list (there’s that damn list again, LOL). I get agitated by my inability to shop quickly, and then it brings on those feelings of anxiety and stress. I need to simply own it, know that it is going to be an ordeal, and move on.
- I have applied for job after job after job so that I can feel like I am “using” that Ph.D., but nothing has worked out. So, I get into a bit of a slump and stop looking. Great attitude, huh? I need to face it, realize that it will happen when the time and job are right, and move on. Fretting over it doesn’t help in any way, shape, or form. Just gotta keep looking at job postings and sending in those apps!
- That darn to-do list. I have figured out that I make the list in order to keep me organized so that I can feel accomplished when I take my purple pen and strike a looming task off of the list because I was able to “Git R Dun!” You know what? My to-do list is ALWAYS and FOREVER going to be insanely long and full. That is just the way it is because I am involved in so many things.
WAIT! WAIT A COTTON PICKING MINUTE!!! Isn’t my third commandment to face it and move on??? Why am I listing all of the things that are hanging over my head??
Listen, Lisa. You have a butt-ton of stuff that you are involved in and do. You will ALWAYS, ALWAYS have a to-do list that is a mile long and a mile and a half wide. Face it. Move on. Pick something and do it. Then, move on.
It’s as simple as that.